William James

I’ve always been a bit of a worrier, but lately, my anxiety has escalated to the point where I am physically shaking before I have to leave the house. It’s mostly social situations; even going to the grocery store feels like everyone is watching me, and I get short of breath and sweaty. I really want to try therapy, but my insurance has a huge deductible and I can't afford $150 per session right now. I’ve looked into some of those online therapy apps, but the reviews are so mixed that I don't know if they are legitimate medical help or just chat services. Are there coping mechanisms for severe social anxiety that I can try at home while I save up for a real therapist?

80 votes

I've struggled with anxiety my whole life. I've tried therapy, meditation apps, journaling, exercise, medication. Some things help temporarily, but the anxiety always comes back. Lately I've been reading Meditations by Marcus Aurelius, and the idea that we can choose our responses to things. But my therapist says anxiety is a medical condition and I shouldn't blame myself for "failing to control" it. I'm confused. Am I supposed to accept my anxiety as part of who I am? Or am I supposed to fight it with willpower and mental discipline? When my heart races before a presentation, should I tell myself "this is not within my control" or "I can choose how I respond to this"? I want to feel better but I'm exhausted from trying to fix myself.

102 votes