How do I make friends as an adult?

Oh, this modern affliction! In my day, we were thrown together by circumstance — neighbors, church, endless social calls. You had little choice but to form connections. Now I understand you must be far more intentional. The secret to adult friendship is this: You must be the one who initiates. Repeatedly. Without keeping score. When you meet someone interesting, suggest a specific activity: "I'm going to that lecture on Thursday — would you like to join?" Not the vague "We should get together sometime" that both parties know will never materialize. Specificity is sincerity. Then — and this is crucial — follow up. One pleasant conversation does not make a friend. Friendship requires repetition. You must see someone many times before the acquaintance deepens into genuine connection. This is why childhood friendships form so easily — we were simply around the same people constantly. Be willing to be awkward. Adult friendship requires pushing past the initial discomfort of "We don't know each other very well, but I'd like to." That vulnerability is uncomfortable. Do it anyway. And choose activities over performances. The best friendships form shoulder-to-shoulder, not face-to-face. Walk together, cook together, work on a project together. Conversation flows more naturally when you have something to do with your hands. My dearest friendships were not formed in ballrooms but on long walks through muddy fields.